How to Neutralize Negative Energy

“You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair” – Martin Luther Remember Debbie Downer from Saturday Night Live? I hated her. I didn’t find her funny or ingratiating. I didn’t want to be her friend. Sometimes I wanted to help her out…

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From Kvetching to Kvelling

Having the privilege to travel all over the world and seeing and being with people who are less fortunate than me, reminded me of important it is to be grateful. In fact, my thoughts returned again and again to just how fortunate I am in my everyday life. Sometimes, when I am at home I…

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The Truth Can Be Hurtful

A coaching client of mine recently had an experience that brought back to me a frequently-forgotten but basic truth. This client (let’s call her Ellen) has been coaching with me for about a year. But last week when she came in, she was emotionally distraught and clearly distracted. She explained that something had happened between…

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How to Receive Feedback – Part Two

A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her. -David Brinkley This post is about receiving negative feedback or making receiving criticism a positive experience. For ease of discussion, let’s say there are two types of feedback: positive feedback when you are told…

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How to Receive Feedback – Part One

Winston Churchill recognized the importance of criticism when he said, “Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.” “The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than…

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The Broader Side of Business Coaching

I love my executive coaching clients. I love helping them and I love seeing their success. It is truly on honor to work with each and every one of my clients. I love seeing their revelations and renewed energy. And I particularly love when I see them using the coaching skills and lessons they learned…

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Gearing Up When You’re Out of Steam

We all have times that we feel stuck. When it’s a writer who gets stuck, the syndrome has a name: “writer’s block.” But certainly that feeling that your brain can’t get started isn’t exclusive to writers. Plenty of executives that I coach run into these blocks frequently. Since it’s a universal feeling from which we…

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Winning, Losing and How You Play the Game

Are you aware of a well-known Jeopardy controversy? It’s quite fascinating. There was a new repeat champion who’s won by using unconventional game tactics. He’s done more than study the very split second when to hit his buzzer to control the board. And more than learn a lot about a lot, giving him both a…

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