Getting to Know You – Part 1

Throughout our lives one thing should never change: our quest to understand ourselves and others more clearly. When we learn about ourselves, the benefits are nearly endless: a sense of self, knowledge of our beliefs, understanding of our motivations, learning how and why others react to us in different ways, and – from the point…

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Leading from the Heart

“The deeper your relationship with others, the more effective will be your leadership. People will not follow you if they do not trust you, and before someone will lend you a hand, you must first touch their heart.” – Robin Sharma Recently I was asked about what someone referred to as a “new” leadership technique.…

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It’s Never Too Late

I promise, it wasn’t New Year’s Eve but the New York Times that prompted me to write this post. I’m not about to advocate change because New Year’s Eve is right around the corner and about to pounce on us with entreaties to make resolutions, change our lives and lose weight. No, it was an…

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Fight The Urge to Stereotype

The subtlest and most pervasive of all influences are those which create and maintain the repertory of stereotypes. We are told about the world before we see it. We imagine most things before we experience them. -Walter Lippmann Here’s a quick exercise on stereotyping: what do you think of when you think of a London…

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All You Need Is Love (For Yourself)

Can you remember the feeling of new love? There’s absolutely nothing like the wonder and feelings of fresh new love: the world is bright, energy is buzzing and boundless, productivity abounds, your heart is bursting, all is right with the world. You look to the future with open eyes and expectations. Your emotions are edgy…

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How to Neutralize Negative Energy

“You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair” – Martin Luther Remember Debbie Downer from Saturday Night Live? I hated her. I didn’t find her funny or ingratiating. I didn’t want to be her friend. Sometimes I wanted to help her out…

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From Kvetching to Kvelling

Having the privilege to travel all over the world and seeing and being with people who are less fortunate than me, reminded me of important it is to be grateful. In fact, my thoughts returned again and again to just how fortunate I am in my everyday life. Sometimes, when I am at home I…

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Place the Big Rocks First

Though you’ve may not heard of author and speaker Steven Covey, you’ve probably read, or at the very least heard of, his wonderful book The Seven Habits of Effective People. And, though that is his most well-known book, it’s a philosophy from his first book, Put First Things First, which really resonates with me. There,…

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The Truth Can Be Hurtful

A coaching client of mine recently had an experience that brought back to me a frequently-forgotten but basic truth. This client (let’s call her Ellen) has been coaching with me for about a year. But last week when she came in, she was emotionally distraught and clearly distracted. She explained that something had happened between…

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